Advice anti-bullying

Published on February 5th, 2013 | by Peggy


Stop Bullying

Dear Peggy,

The boy at school is bullying me and he wants to have a fighting match. The problem is I have no experience in fighting and I don’t want everyone to think I am a wimp.   What should I do?  P.S none of the adults care.



Dear Zu,

I’m so sorry you have to go through the pain and fear of being bullied.  And while you stated in your letter that “none of the adults care”, I bet you’d be surprised by how many people do care and want to help, you just have to find the right people to talk to.  Believe me, they’re all around you, don’t let the past discourage you…today is a new day and you are in control of this moving forward.   You didn’t share whether you have approached an adult about this but if you have, and they did nothing, I would search for someone else to tell and keep doing so until you get the help you deserve.  Don’t stop just because you had a less than helpful reaction so far.  It’s important to talk to someone about it, whether it’s a parent, grandparent, adult (a teacher, school counselor, or family friend), or a sibling.  Keeping silent gives more power to the bully, because they hide behind the secrecy and count on the fact you won’t “out them” out of fear.

Kids are often reluctant to tell adults about bullying because they feel embarrassed and ashamed that it’s happening, or worry that their parents will be disappointed. Some kids even feel like it’s their fault…let me assure you…IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!

Don’t fight with this boy, it won’t solve anything, it may very well make things worse.  Not fighting doesn’t make you a wimp, quite the opposite actually.  Being responsible and mature and telling an adult will have a far better outcome than a fight ever would.  I promise you that…fighting doesn’t solve anything in the long run.

Please don’t delay in telling an adult and please message me with an update so I know you’re ok and how things worked out.  I am here if you need me…

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