Published on February 5th, 2013 | by Peggy0
Get Your Head Out of Your Ass
I call it the “Mommy Voice”. The moment I switch gears from “Easy-Going” Peggy to “Get Out of my Fucking Way” Peggy. Believe me, if you’re on the receiving end of the “tone”, you probably wish you weren’t, and if I’m using it to help someone in need (I have a tendency to not whip it out for myself, I normally use it for the good of others), it’s a real sight to behold and apparently quite funny, after the fact.
I like to think the best of people and I normally speak and listen, with respect. I have found the kinder I am, the kinder others are too. But lets face it, not everyone is nice, all of the time, including me.
I pulled out the Mommy Voice the other day when a friend of mine, who happens to be gay, was getting absolutely zero respect from an employee at a local business. Don’t get me wrong, this woman didn’t need saving…she could stare down the devil with those piercing blue eyes, but the situation called for some “I got your back” intervention, and I was more than willing to step up and do her bidding. (I have a feeling she’ll more than return the favour someday when I need her to have my back). Getting back to my story, let me tell you why I’m pissed. I’m pissed because some people are rude and ignorant and I was unfortunate enough to see it in real time this past weekend. You see, I have a circle of friends that are gay…both men and women and I love them dearly. I don’t spend my time trying to figure out how “straight” me met all these beautiful gays, but my life is richer because they’ve chosen to share their lives with me. We don’t sit around discussing our sexual orientation so I don’t even think about it…I just figured the majority didn’t think about it either. I was wrong. Homophobia is alive and well and it grosses me out.
Watching a woman say “oh, I’m her partner” and having it wrapped in some sort of apology, makes me ill. I mean seriously…we’re not living in the 50’s anymore. People of the same gender get married…they have babies…they lead productive lives…oh ya, here’s a scary thought for all you people with your head up your ass, they’re just like you and I. They mean no more…nor do they mean any less. I don’t know what annoys me more, the looking down on a gay couple or the nose in the air like you’re better somehow. Here’s a bulletin…we’re all worth the same. It’s all in what you do with your worth that sets you apart. Doing good, makes you good…period!
So the next time you treat a gay partner with less respect than a husband or a wife, take a moment to realize they have a story. A story that’s most likely riddled with sorrow and bigotry and you now have an opportunity to stop the cycle by treating this person like everybody else. Because ultimately that’s the bottom line. My gay friends aren’t looking for special treatment…they want the same treatment as everybody else.
So come on people…buck up and play nice.